Funerals are among the most painful and sobering experiences of human life. They remind us of a truth we often work hard to avoid: death is real, unavoidable, and coming for every one of us. No amount of wealth, success, education, influence, or denial can change that reality. Scripture tells us, “It is appointed unto men once to die” (Hebrews 9:27). Every funeral is therefore not merely about the one who has died; it is also a reminder to the living that our days are numbered.
Yet many people live as though death belongs only to others. We postpone conversations about it, avoid preparations for it, and refuse to think deeply about what our departure would mean for those we leave behind. But wisdom calls us to face reality honestly. Preparing for death is not an act of fear or pessimism; it is an act of wisdom, love, and stewardship.
Accept and Expect Death
First, we must come to terms with the reality that we are all inching closer to our death. Every birthday, every passing year, every funeral we attend is a reminder that life on earth is temporary. Coming to terms with death does not mean calling for it upon your life or living in despair. Rather, it means living with sobriety and perspective. It means recognising that our time is limited and therefore valuable.
Many people fear discussing death because they think it somehow invites misfortune. But avoiding the topic does not delay its arrival. Death does not consult our comfort levels before it comes. The wise person acknowledges mortality and seeks to live purposefully because of it. Moses prayed in Psalm 90, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” A proper understanding of death should not paralyse us; it should help us prioritise what matters most—our walk with God, our families, our relationships, and faithful stewardship of our responsibilities.
Talk about and Relate in Light of Death
Second, families need to talk openly about the reality of death and make the most of the life they have together. Husbands, wives, parents, children, and siblings should not assume tomorrow is guaranteed. We should cherish each day together and avoid living carelessly with unresolved conflict, bitterness, or neglect. Families should lovingly prepare one another for the very real possibility that today may be the last day they have together.
Painful conversations about death are often avoided because they are uncomfortable. But silence does not remove the reality of what is coming. In fact, avoiding such conversations often leaves families emotionally and practically unprepared when tragedy strikes. Speak words of love often. Resolve conflicts quickly. Spend meaningful time together. Make memories. Say what needs to be said while there is still time.
Make Necessary Plans for Death
Third, people should make necessary plans for their funerals and estates. There are practical matters connected to death that should not be ignored. Have a funeral insurance policy in place. Thankfully, there are several accessible options available today. Planning is not morbid; it is an act of care for those who will carry the burden after you are gone.
Think about your funeral service. What songs would you like sung? What Scriptures would you want read? Is there a message or testimony you would want shared with those attending? Some people may even wish to leave letters or recorded messages for loved ones.
Most importantly, write a will and put your wishes in writing. Too many families are torn apart after a death because nothing was documented clearly. Confusion, disputes, and unnecessary drama often follow when there are no clear instructions. A little preparation today can spare your loved one’s enormous stress tomorrow.
Men, Avoid Solo and Secret Missions
Fourth, husbands and fathers especially must think carefully about how their wives and children will survive if they die unexpectedly. A wife should not suddenly find herself starting from scratch, trying to figure out finances, debts, business arrangements, passwords, or property matters while grieving. Many men make the mistake of carrying all financial information alone. They handle everything privately, believing they are being responsible, but when they die, they leave their families confused and vulnerable.
Clear your debts where possible. Share your plans with your spouse. Make wise investments. Ensure your wife understands the family finances, knows where documents are located, and can access essential accounts and information. True leadership includes preparing your family not only for your life but also for your absence.
Finally, a word must be said about investments and ventures with extended family. In many families, people enter into business arrangements or property investments with siblings, parents, or other relatives informally, without proper documentation. While relationships may be healthy today, death often quickly changes the dynamics. In the absence of clearly written agreements or contracts, your wife and children may have no legal claim to investments or projects you helped build.
Good intentions are not enough. Put agreements in writing. Protect your family legally and wisely. The goal is not distrust but stewardship and clarity.
Conclusion
Funerals remind us that life is fragile and temporary. Preparing for death is not a lack of faith; it is wisdom in action. The reality of death should move us to live intentionally, love deeply, plan carefully, and walk faithfully with God. One day, every one of us will leave this world. The question is not whether that day will come, but whether we will be ready for it and whether we will leave our loved ones prepared when it does. Dear Christian, are you ready to die?